Friday, December 19, 2014

why am I not surprised?

Just recovered from light fever, balik kelantan terus demam.. Sebab cuaca kat kajang panas kat kelantan sejuk ...


one silly thought came lingering in my mind. ' kalau a girl tu bergaduh dengan kawan perempuan, disebabkan oleh boyfriend ' at the end of the day, mesti dia akan berbaik semula dengan boyfriend dia kan, tapi dengan kawan perempuan dia yang dia dah kenal bertahun tahun, nahhh never. I qoute Taylor Swift's song 'we are never ever getting back together again' . Yeah, please sing that song.

a girl tu akan rasa, pergh kawan perempuan tu la paling jahanam dia pernah jumpa, dia lah manusia paling menyesal sebab kenal kawan perempuan tu...


I believe, if you give another chance to your boyfriend, why wouldn't you give another chance to your girl friend? Semudah itu, you end a friendship because of a man? Boyfriend you, mungkin akan ulang silap yang sama. Contoh kalau dia pernah menipu, konfirm dia akan buat lagi belakang kau. After all the memories that you shared together with your girl friend, maybe silap dia hanya satu,, tapi cukup untuk buat kan putus sahabat.


dan begitu juga senario nya bila  kau cakap kau tak perlukan kawan dan cinta. At the end of the day, you will crawl back to your love, I mean boyfriend of course, and not crawling back to your friend too.



Why am I not surprise about this? Maybe I committed the same mistake too. I was wrong.I did the same mistake like others too. I am truly, deeply sorry, but at the end of the day, I went back to repair the broken friendship. Why would I lose someone wonderful just because of a guy, I was damn foolish.

the point is, though it takes time to heal the hurt, the pain in your heart, give chance for them to come back into your life. Everyone deserve a second chance, as much as we want others to give us another chance the moment we made mistake.

kadang kadang, mereka tak de niat pun nak betray korang, tapi situasi yang lama lama buat masalah dan konflik tu berlaku. If you can give another chance to your boyfriend, please give another chance to your girl friends, if they really mean that they are sorry.

satu lagi situasi, bila ada a guy suka kau, tapi kau 'friendzone' kan dia . yeah, welcome to friendzone.. ha. ha. ha. lepas tu korang berkawan, kononnya lah 'we can just be friend not more than that' , lepas tu that guy pun move on lah, *lelaki mudah memberi cinta, remember girls* he fall in love with another girl, nak tambah acid sulphur dioxide ke atas situasi ni, dia jatuh cinta lah pulak dengan kawan baik kau.. Haa cliche sangat macam novel, but it happened in real life. You wend mad , you throw your tantrum, you blame the girl. Poor innocent girl, tak pasal pasal dipersalahkan, like she has been stealing your boyfriend pulak,. Maybe kau rasa lepas ni that guy would never be there for you anymore? Less attention maybe?


I felt the same way too, but never let your emotion went wild than your mind. Try to be rational,, kita dah umur 20 something kot, bukan budak sekolah yang nak ambik SPM, ha. ha. ha. Be matured.

Trust me, I felt the same way too when most of my male friends are no longer giving their full attention to me, because they have another commitments to fulfill to their girlfriends. Kena lah slowly paham, walaupun pedih ulu hati, mana tak pedih ulu hati,, kau dah tak de geng nak melawak, tak de geng nak lepak, tak de geng nak checking up on you every morning. sampai aku sendiri pun pernah cakap dalam hati 'jilakanya youuu,, dah pergi mereput sana'. tapi kena paham, kena terima. Kena paham, mungkin makwe dia tu species cemburu buta dan akan act macam totally spies untuk update setiap aktiviti member kau tu, I mean his boyfriend la kan.. Btw, You pun akan buat benda yang sama kan, spend more time with your boyfriend compared to your friend, or you put the same equal amount of time to spend with friends, boyfriends and study,, sama lah situasi nya di sini.. Tentang siapa yang dia nak jatuh cinta tu, the heart wants what it wants. You cannot decide pada siapa kau nak jatuh cinta. There are no rules to fall in love., unless you yang buat rules tu... Don't go blaming others semudah itu, nampak yang pendek akalnya kita.


some things change. You need to adapt to changes. Lepas ni kalau pedih ulu hati pasal ni lagi, disarankan untuk ambik gaviscon. It is good to cure that pain.



Why am I not surprise about all these, maybe it happened to me, maybe I did that stupid mistakes too but please, please and please,, do something to revert your relationship, or friendships to normal phase again, maybe it is not the same anymore, how can you put back the broken glasses into its original look again, (walaupun kau letak gam cap gajah, cap badak sekalipun kan) but at least, we know that broken glasses went back to form a shape again, it exist and not being left broken into pieces, waiting to be swept away into a dustbin *metaphorically speaking*


I am writing this because I lost a few friendships because of this, and it happened to me. It was painful, damn painful. so darn, yet so true. and I also witnessed a lot of broken friendship because of this, which deep down from my heart, I pray and I hope they will mend their friendships again, someday, it takes time, but it requires the efforts.


setiap manusia, react pada sesuatu situasi tu berbeza, beza dia, to what extend you react to that situation, it reflects your maturity.

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